Bad relationships are all over the place. Chances are, youβve been in one before. And if you donβt think you have, you could be in one right now. Since youβre here, youβre probably wondering what the signs of a bad relationship are so you can rule out your own.
I have bad news for you. If youβre reading this, youβre probably going through a rough time with your partner. While not all setbacks are an indication of a bad relationship, enough to make you want to research it could prove to be problematic.
Bad relationships affect far more than just your love life
They can make your entire life worse. Everything from your friendships to your career can suffer if youβre in a toxic relationship. Knowing the signs of one is a very powerful way you can take back control and prevent everything from going downhill.
Signs of a bad relationship to keep a lookout for
Nobody wants to be with someone whoβs bad for them. We all want that incredible, fun love story we see all over social media. While those may not be completely accurate, theyβre great goals to shoot for.
Wanting a healthy relationship is important. Recognizing that youβre not in one is also very valuable. If you truly want to know if your relationship is bad and unhealthy for both of you, here are the glaring signs of a bad relationship to watch out for.
#1 Lack of communication.
When you donβt talk to each other or worse, you CANβT talk to each other, something is very, very wrong. In order for a relationship to be healthy, you have to be able to discuss everything. If you canβt even tell your partner when youβre upset, itβs not a good relationship.
#2 Insults β even if theyβre just βjokes.β
Itβs perfectly fine to tease and joke around with your significant other. It becomes a problem when those βjokesβ are actually insulting and hurtful. You have to know what will cause your significant other pain.
And on the flip side, if theyβre continuously insulting you and itβs actually making you upset, then you have to say something. If you canβt and this is a serious problem, itβs a sign of a bad relationship.
#3 Belittling each other in front of guests.
This can be difficult to determine simply because some people have a hard time figuring out where the line is between teasing and belittling. But if itβs blatant, then you have an awful relationship. Putting each other down should never be tolerated.
#4 Arguments with no resolution.
Fighting in relationships is perfectly fine. Obviously, if youβre fighting all the time, thatβs not good. But arguing and then never actually talking about it is a major issue. You canβt bottle up those feelings. If you do, theyβll explode in the worst ways.
#5 Having make-up sex instead of talking.
If your arguments all end in the bedroom, you have an unhealthy relationship. Itβs okay if you talk it out and make up BEFORE the sex, but using sex a means to solve your problems is as toxic as it gets.
#6 Your friends have told you itβs bad.
They know you best and they can tell when your behavior takes a dive for the worse. You really have to listen to them. Itβs hard and you may be very defensive at first, but they care about you. Telling you the relationship is bad means it truly is.
#7 Your family doesnβt like them.
Most of your family members can tell if someone is treating you right just by how you act. If they have issues with the guy, itβs for a reason. Pay attention to your family and even ask them what they think. Some may not even be shy about telling you how they feel.
#8 Their family doesnβt like you.
Normally with bad relationships, both people are to blame. This may be evident with the way their family treats you. You might think youβre being great to them but if their family is showing you otherwise, itβs time to do some self-reflecting.
#9 Passive aggressive notes are left everywhere.
When your partner is leaving you notes all about the stuff theyβre mad at you for, itβs not healthy. This is a very passive aggressive way of going about problem solving. When you canβt talk, the relationship is unhealthy.
#10 You donβt prioritize each other.
If youβre in a relationship, your partner should be your priority. Of course you have other things to worry about, but they should still be toward the top of the list. If youβre both ignoring each other and not respecting that prioritization, things will never be good for you.
#11 You hardly do nice things for one another.
In a healthy relationship, your goal is to always make each other happy. When you stop doing those things, something is wrong. You canβt be with someone if you donβt even want to do nice things for them.
#12 You donβt appreciate the stuff you actually do for each other.
When you actually do stuff thatβs sweet and kind, neither of you appreciates when the other person does it. When you come to expect nice things and never acknowledge that theyβre done, youβre not grateful. Being ungrateful is not healthy.
#13 You feel relieved when you get to be alone.
Now, a lot of people enjoy their alone time. But when you were just with your partner and are relieved when they finally leave, thereβs an issue.
You should want to be around your significant other. Not wanting them around means you donβt like their company. If you donβt like their company, then why are you even together?
#14 You sometimes wish you werenβt together.
Even if youβre arguing, you should never feel like this in a healthy relationship. If you do, itβs one of the many signs of a bad relationship and you probably arenβt happy. When you feel this way more often than not, itβs trouble.
#15 Youβre unhappy.
This should just be obvious, but some people need the reminder. If youβre not happy with your significant other, you shouldnβt be together. Forget about how long youβve been with them or what anyone else would think if you split. Your happiness is of the utmost importance.